A new pet peeve

So my biggest pet peeve was always people who are unaware of where they are in space. So the people at the mall or take up the entire walkway and walk at a glacial pace. The idiots backing out of the parking lot that pause halfway out of their spot so that you can't go around them because they are still technically backing up. The assholes in the grocery store that stand staring at canned vegetables for an hour with their cart in the middle of the aisle so you can't get by with your already screaming toddler. These people. I can't stand these people.  You know who you are!

I have a new pet peeve that may be exceeding this one rapidly= people who don't know their audience.  Well that's not entirely accurate. I don't care if you genuinely don't know who you're talking to but if you know someone's story and still talk to them about it like you don't then I hate you completely. If you know your friend has breast cancer and talk to them about how much you hate your boobs, then screw you. If you know someone in the room has just gotten a divorce and you still go on and on about how in love you are or how hard it is out there and how glad you are that you are now engaged and will never have to date again, then you should be stoned. And if you know that I have had a miscarriage and you tell me, "Eva is getting so big, time for another one Jane, don't you think?!" or "I am so over being pregnant right now"... I seriously may never speak to you again. Which maybe that's your goal? If so, congrats.

It bothers me also, but maybe not quite as much since I have made it public info in a way, when you ask me how trying to get pregnant is going.  If you say, "So you guys are trying again. How are you feeling about it all?", then I love you. You are a true friend that wants to see how my head is on and check in to make sure I am not losing my mind with worry. That is fine. When you ask me, "do you think you may be pregnant yet?" and I tell you, "I don't want to speculate. I don't want to do that to myself. So all I know is that no, I am not currently pregnant" don't continue probing me for information. I am not lying. I do not want to play that game. I don't care if it is your way of showing your hopes for us, it's inappropriate and not appreciated. All you are doing is pushing me to the brink of insanity over an already stressful issue for us. If you push me on this issue then you are putting yourself on the list as one more person I will disappoint when I get my period on time. Is that your intentions? If not, then take my word for it and stop asking. You will be informed when we feel it is the right time to inform you, not on your agenda of wanting to be in the know. If that is your intentions than it has been nice knowing you and this is where our paths divide. Period.